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  Believe in Yourself - Luke
  Peer Pressure - Nicole
  Sharing Your Gifts - Dave
  Get Ready for High School - Ryan
  True Friendship - Stephanie
  Mean Girls - Becky
  Peer Pressure & Drugs - Sammy
  Time for Yourself & God - Cameron
  God in My Life - Matt
  Self Esteem & Respect - Lindsey
  The Power of Family - Kauri
  Doing Fun Things / Volunteering - Dylan
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"Always be a FIRST-RATE VERSION of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else!"
-Judy Garland
 
Peer Pressure, by Nicole
This speech is mainly for the girls in this room, but I think it is also important for the guys to hear, because they have a hard enough time understanding us anyway. It's what's going on, so you'll have to get used to it.
Peer Pressure: it's something we all deal with. You have probably been bombarded with scenarios and facts in your health classes, but this is a different spin. This kind of peer pressure is not as obvious. Girls: do you wear clothes from Abercrombie or buy certain Adidas sneakers? Do you have a crush on a guy that's part of the "popular" crowd? Do you play sports or dance just because your friends do? What about makeup? I know a lot of 7th and 8th graders wear makeup, so do you wear it to impress the other girls you're friends with? Does it mean you are "cooler" or "more mature"? The real question is why do we wear the clothes, makeup and shoes or play the sports or like the guys that everyone else likes? Ultimately, there is something in the water that makes certain clothes all the way down to your school supplies unacceptable next to other ones. If you don't like to play sports and aren't into guys right now, that's ok! You're not expected to be anyone, but yourself. I've seen too many girls trying too hard to be something they're not. If some of you girls are doing what I'm describing right now, you're in for a long ride with high school. High school girls are judgmental. They can be among the nicest, or the meanest, it doesn't matter. If you start out giving into the peer pressures you face in middle school, who knows how successful you will be in trying to stay away from drinking or drugs. I think a stereotype is put upon guys that they will drink and have sex in high school. It's not just the guys, and it's more common than you think.
Here's a real- life scenario for you. Last year I was the new girl and a freshman. I liked a guy, and naturally I told my girlfriends. To make a long story short, he asked me out. After we had gone out for only one week, my girlfriends were asking how far I went, or planned to go. I had always replied, "no where." I felt compelled to do things I didn't want to do because my friends constantly asked about it. I felt, "what are they going to say if I don't do anything with him? What is he going to think of me? I will be the outcast." No, no you won't. I never did anything, but hug him and I'm sure they may have talked behind my back or called me prude, but I knew it was not what I wanted. If I had listened to my friends I could have made a lot of mistakes.
You are all going to make mistakes at some point. I just hope it won't change your life in a negative way. Overall, you can make your own choices, but is it worth it to fit in and sacrifice yourself? You decide.