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  Believe in Yourself - Luke
  Peer Pressure - Nicole
  Sharing Your Gifts - Dave
  Get Ready for High School - Ryan
  True Friendship - Stephanie
  Mean Girls - Becky
  Peer Pressure & Drugs - Sammy
  Time for Yourself & God - Cameron
  God in My Life - Matt
  Self Esteem & Respect - Lindsey
  The Power of Family - Kauri
  Doing Fun Things / Volunteering - Dylan
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"Always be a FIRST-RATE VERSION of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else!"
-Judy Garland
 
Self Esteem & Dress for Respect , by Lindsey
Since I started in the high school more than a year ago, I realized that there is one thing that will affect your high school life more than anything else. Of course your family and friends are really important, but the one person who can really shape your high school experience is YOU. And if you don't believe in yourself and your ability to make the right decisions, than who will? Self-esteem is so important when you're going to the high school. Having the courage to stay "straight-edge" is extremely difficult, but it will make all the difference.
Having self-esteem does not mean going to parties and only drinking a little, or only hooking up once with one guy or girl. It's having the courage and the strength within you to not go to that party, even when invited, to not take that drink, even when encouraged, and to not hook up with that guy or girl even when they pressure you. It's such a difficult thing to do, and at times, I know I've felt left out and alone, because it seemed like I was the only one who still had morals in the entire school. But I found this group of kids here and realized that there are other people just like me, and that if I looked hard enough, good people were all around me.
I can't tell you how much of an impact my faith has had on my self-esteem and ability to stay away from these situations. One of my favorite Bible passages is in the Book of Wisdom. It says, "You (God) love everything that exists; you do not despise anything that you have made. If you had not liked it, you would not have made it in the first place." This passage always makes me feel loved and needed by God, which reassures me that if no one else, God will always love me, and that pleasing others is not nearly as important.
One thing that I have really applied this to is the way that girls dress. Having the self-respect to dress modestly is so crucial. Believe me girls, guys really respect girls who can dress nicely but modestly. You don't have to wear short skirts and tight tops to look good and feel good. Believe me girls, it's easy to cover yourself up without looking frumpy or overdressed. And boys don't like girls who reveal too much, honestly. While they may enjoy it once, they can always find another girl wearing a shorter skirt and higher heels - and the kind of guys that like you for your body only aren't the kind you want to be having relationships with anyway. They will end up hurting you, and they're not worth all that. You teach people how to treat you, and if you don't dress with class, you're promoting yourself as a classless, promiscuous person, whether you intend to or not. All I'm asking is that you consider dressing with a little more modesty, and a little more respect for yourself. Let yourself stand out from the crowd of girls in tiny skirts and tiny shirts with a tone of foundation and eyeliner. Dressing and being natural is the only way to gain respect, and to have people really like you for you.
Another way to show modesty is through your makeup. It's so easy to get caught up, convincing yourself that the more you put on, the better you look. But in all honesty, looking natural is so much better. Wearing too much makeup makes people think that you're insecure and fake. It really is possible to wear only a little makeup and still look good. Guys who go after the girls with a lot of makeup aren't the kind you want to get to know. It's much better to really get to know a group of good guys who like you for your personality, not for your looks.
In a nutshell, self-esteem is not an easy thing to have, but having the courage to be yourself is so important, and will be such a great asset to you in high school. Just believe in yourself, and know that God loves you for who you are, not how you dress or how you look. So respect yourself and realize that no, high school is not easy, but being true to yourself can make it a lot more fun.